I chanced upon this article cum feature in MSN Lifestyle and I thought it’s really appropriate with regards to what I was intending to share in this post.
Essential male friends: A guide to which guys (girls) need in their lives!
As we all know, it’s important to have a variety of friends, and of course even when you’re attached it’s always good to have a bunch of guy friends you can rely on for advice, male opinion, a compliment boost or even a good, old harmless flirt to spice things up once in awhile. While some guys can be such a pain in the ass, there are great ones out there who have a genuine heart and plenty of room to offer their love
If you need prototypes as examples for what I’m talking about, here goes:
This is probably a guy that you could have met on a holiday or have known from school or college. In your mind, he is the memory maker. He is someone that exudes fun and when you are around him, you know you will never be bored. He has a plethora of fun ideas up his sleeves to keep everyone entertained.
He will no doubt, push you out of your comfort zone, but you will afterwards appreciate it and learn that there is always time from wild exploits. This isn’t a guy that you will be able to turn down as he is always on the move and needs his space.
The platonic friend with no sexual tension
While you are obviously aware he is of the opposite sex, there is no chance of you jumping in to bed with him. Here’s hoping he feels the same way about you. If this is the case, then this is a measure of testosterone so straightforward and loyal, that nothing (apart from maybe a new girlfriend) will blemish it.
Most importantly, this male friend can strip away man-talk and give you the reality in bite-sized nuggets of so-called male wisdom. Without a whisper of an ulterior motive. He’s like a brother from another mother and a guy that you can jump into bed and watch a film knowing that there won’t be any wandering hands.
The platonic friend with sexual tension
You have wild fantasies about this guy and while you love to think about them, it is not something that you would act on. And that is a good thing as there is a valid reason why the two of you haven’t reached ‘that point of no return’. You know at the end of the day, that it isn’t a great idea and one that will ruin a perfectly good and fun friendship.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t fit in some thinly veiled compliments and revel in delight in his faux-jealousy when you complain about jerks. It’s like a cheap (but oh so yummy) fast food burger. Harmless in small doses.
Flirting with someone, or having someone flirt with you is an instant pick-me-up and therefore, it is essential to have a male friend that is a smooth talker and charmer. We all have our off days and knowing that we have someone in our address book that gives out flirtatious and positive comments like nobody’s business, is great to have around.
A little harmless flirting never hurt anyone, especially when you know it isn’t going anywhere and it’s just a bit of fun to have.
There are some guys that we meet and know are going to be great friends for a long time. So many people come in and out of our lives and it is sometimes hard to keep in touch with everyone. However, this person is someone who has added value to your life. He is the man with good values, virtues, upbringing, disciplined and focus.
They are the type of men that make you realise your dreams in a positive way without soiling your hands or delving into immorality and evil lifestyle and reaffirm your faith that there are good men out there that you can date… but not this one. He is there as a friend and advisor.
The totally honest guy
The thing is, with girls, they don’t always tell each other the whole honest truth when it comes to opinions on what they are wearing, other girls and of course, men. Girls, can of course, be a bit catty amongst one another and rivalry can be high, even with close friends. On the other hand, they can be tactful among one another so as not to hurt one another’s opinions: “that’s not weight you have put on, it’s just a bit of water retention.”
A guy can tell us straight without making us feel so offended. They are simple creatures and tell things how they are and how they see them, like: “Hmm, you’re looking a bit frumpy today” or “you know the guy you are dating is a …….” It’s not always what we want to hear, but a male friend like this is honest and straight to the point. No beating around the bush.
He is also your gateway to how men think, but more importantly, how men see you; both of which are extremely useful sources of information to get your hands on.
The gay friend
This one is so clear it borders on cliché. What are we saying? It is a cliché, but dry spells and gay friends go together like champagne and strawberries. Nobody is better to have a good b*tch session with and lament the evils of men while watching reruns of ‘Sex and the City’.
Gay guys are still guys, too. Same state of mind, just a mixture of girls-in-hot-tub and muscle-boys-on-sports-field. You get the idea, and thankfully, that aggression will never be directed toward you and you get the best of both worlds.
credits to MSN Singapore
The thing is, I totally agree with most of what you see above in the various descriptions of the different types of guys we girls need in our lives. If I actually have one of each, that will be really cool.
Do I? Definitely a few in my social circle fit the bill, but I wouldn’t stop looking.
I love men, in every sense of the word. Not only because I’m comfortable with my own sexuality, but also because they’re such honest, straightforward and simple creatures. Out with the complicated, manipulative ones though.
Moreover, I really appreciate Gays.
I was really touched last night by a birthday present from my dearest brother, Jonathan.
He wrote me a song, sang it, recorded it and sent it to me upon my request (because I want to keep it forever )
Thank you, my most cherished brother. You rock!!!
Has been, 23 yrs after your birth..
You grow bigger, stronger and smarter
Look at those eyes, look at those looks
Getting more matured, and wiser..
23yrs of life, experiencing joy and pain
Growing up, and learning in life
That is a gift from God
Happy Birthday to you, Melissa
Happy Birthday, my sister
And hope your future, is the fruitfullest of all
Happy Birthday x3
My brother Jonathan ))