Had dinner with Eric tonight @ Ichiban Boshi, The Esplanade (saw one of the Mr Singapore 2009 contestants). We had a really meaningful conversation about alot of things, and finally took a walk around the Esplanade after that. He was telling me about what he learnt today at a workshop by Dr. Mel Gill, a famous TV and Radio personality and a psychologist. Very interesting…from him it seems like I’m a…Kinesthetic person, in neurolinguistics terms.

Kinesthetics

A kinesthetic person's frame of mind is how it makes him/her feel. Kinesthetics are huggy-kissy kind of people. Kinesthetics use feeling words freely: "I am angry, I am happy, It is neat."

Kinesthetics love to be right in the middle of things, like doing group activities, or role playing. Kinesthetic people like to sit next to you. They like small intimate groups. Kinesthetics like emotional music that motivates and moves them. They are good at picking up on other peoples feelings and empathizing with them.

Here are examples of how these groups differ. Let's say you are giving instructions on how to get somewhere: An audio will tell you: "Go 2 miles down Main Street, turn left, then go 1/8 of a mile and turn right, go 1/2 mile and turn on Grand Ave."

A visual will say, "Keep going until you see the fire station, then turn left. Go down Mission until you see the Arco sign, then you will turn in at Longs Drug store." (i.e. what to look for.)

A Kinesthetic person might say, "I'm going that way. You can follow me."

Purchasing a car provides another good example. An audio wants to know how much horsepower it has, how much gas it uses, warrantees, and all the facts and fixtures. A visual wants to see the car, inside and out. A kinesthetic wants to sit in the seat to see how it feels.

- taken from http://www.viewzone.com/neuro.html

There are three relating styles: kinesthetic, visual, and auditory. Kinesthetic oriented people respond to touch and act on how they feel. Kinesthetic people like to engage in affectionate rough housing, as well as being held for long periods of time.

Kinesthetic persons often use terms such as these in conversation:

* “I just felt as if…”
* “I’ll handle it.”
* “I feel like we really connected.”
* “Take it easy.”

Physical contact and feelings are their primary love language. Kinesthetic people often feel overwhelmed or feel picked on in a verbal conflict.

When communicating with a kinesthetic oriented person, a soft touch on the arm means you care, you’re interested, and you’re listening. Often the kinesthetic person will touch you as they are speaking as well.

In the work field, a handshake is often offered and expected by a kinesthetic person. Not only is a handshake proper and a sign of respect to the kinesthetic person, but it is also a personal connection. In addition, they may put their arm around your shoulders while walking and talking. This is how they communicate and connect.

Kinesthetic people are hard to motivate, however, because they often can’t get past how they’re feeling in the moment. They are very emotionally driven and often let their emotions control their actions. Kinesthetic oriented persons also react to gut instincts and tend not to base decisions on reason or logic.

Kinesthetic Relating in Love Relationships

In a relationship with a kinesthetic oriented person, if you don’t touch them often, they may not feel loved by you. They may feel rejected and not even know why.

If your loved one is saying things like, “You never touch me,” or “You never cuddle with me anymore,” their love tank may be empty. Fill it up with some meaningful and long snuggles on the couch, a big bear hug or a nice back massage. Then keep their hearts filled by giving them the touching, hugging, and snuggling they are thirsting for.

- content extracted from here.

So I am a Kinesthetic person. How true.

I have an affinity with Craid David tonight – heard Don’t Love You No More at the restaurant, and in the car, Insomnia. I LOVE BOTH. His voice is keeping me company tonight!!!

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